Couples Therapy for Compulsive Porn Use & Intimacy Recovery | Tiffany Savener, PhD, LPC

Couples Therapy · Austin & Round Rock, TX

When porn has
taken over your
relationship.

Something has shifted — and it doesn't feel small. You're here because something important is broken and you want to fix it. That takes courage. You're in the right place.

PhD · Clinical Psychology Gottman Method Levels 1 & 2 Trauma-Informed 20 Years Experience

Does this sound familiar?

Many couples come in carrying one or more of these:

  • You discovered a partner's porn use and feel betrayed
  • You're the one struggling and can see what it's costing you both
  • Trust has been damaged — even without a physical affair
  • Emotional or sexual intimacy has quietly disappeared
  • You keep having the same fight without any resolution
  • One of you feels invisible; the other feels consumed by shame
  • You love each other, but something essential has eroded
Free Consultation Available
In-Person: Austin & Round Rock
Online Therapy Statewide in Texas
Private Pay · Superbills Provided

Neither of you meant to
end up here.

Compulsive porn use is one of the most isolating relationship struggles a couple can face — partly because it's so hard to talk about.

The partner who has been hurt often carries a painful mix of betrayal, self-doubt, and confusion: Was I not enough? Did they choose this over me?

The partner who has been using often carries shame so heavy it makes honest conversation feel impossible — leading to more distance, more secrecy, and a deeper fracture in the relationship.

Neither of you has to stay stuck here.

A note on shame: Compulsive porn use isn't a moral failing or a reflection of how much someone loves their partner. But secrecy damages trust, and intimacy can't survive where trust has been hollowed out. Therapy helps you rebuild both — honestly and at a pace that feels safe.

What it does to a relationship

Emotional distance and a sense of living parallel lives
Loss of sexual intimacy, or a relationship that feels mechanical and disconnected
A hurt partner who feels invisible, compared, or not enough
A using partner who feels ashamed, defensive, or unable to be fully present
Broken trust — even if there was no physical affair
Conflict that circles the same drain without resolution
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For many couples, the discovery of compulsive porn use feels like a betrayal — because it is one. Not because of moral judgment, but because secrecy damages trust, and intimacy cannot survive where trust has been hollowed out.

— Tiffany Savener, PhD, LPC-Associate

Healing the relationship —
which means both of you matter here.

My approach is grounded in the Gottman Method and trauma-informed care. We look at what's happening between you — not just what one person did wrong.

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Seeing the Hurt Partner

Helping you feel seen, validated, and no longer alone in your pain — without minimizing what happened or rushing your timeline.

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Releasing Shame

Creating space for the using partner to be honest without being destroyed. Shame keeps people stuck; connection creates change.

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Rebuilding Trust

Trust is rebuilt through transparency, accountability, and consistent connection — not promises. We build those structures together.

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Restoring Intimacy

Emotional and physical closeness, restored at a pace that feels safe for both of you — not forced or rushed.

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Real Communication

Practical tools so difficult things don't go underground again. Sustainable patterns — not just better conversations in my office.

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Understanding the Patterns

We look at the dynamic between you — the cycle that keeps you stuck — and interrupt it so something different becomes possible.

Evidence-based. Relational.
Not about blame.

I don't approach this work by deciding who the problem is. I approach it by understanding what's happening between you — and building something more honest and connected in its place.

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Gottman Method Couples Therapy

Research-backed couples therapy that builds friendship, managing conflict constructively, and restoring shared meaning. Levels 1 & 2 trained, including Treating Affairs and Trauma.

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Trauma-Informed Care

The discovery of compulsive porn use is often experienced as a betrayal trauma. We address that — not just the behavior, but the psychological impact on both partners.

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Attachment-Based Work

Addressing the relational wounds that leave both partners feeling unseen — fear of abandonment, shame spirals, emotional withdrawal, and the difficulty of vulnerability.

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Sex Therapy Informed

I work with the relational and intimacy impact of compulsive porn use through a sex-therapy-informed lens, and I am actively pursuing additional sex therapy certification to deepen this work.

A note on scope: I currently work with couples navigating the relational impact of compulsive porn use — the betrayal, the disconnection, the rebuilding. If you're also looking for individual treatment for compulsive sexual behavior, I'm happy to help connect you with appropriate resources while we work on your relationship together.

A relationship that's more honest
and intimate than before.

  • Relief at finally being able to talk about it honestly
  • A hurt partner who begins to feel safe and seen again
  • A using partner motivated by connection rather than paralyzed by shame
  • Renewed emotional and physical closeness
  • A relationship that's more honest and intimate than it was before
  • Real communication tools — so this doesn't just go underground again
  • Clarity about what happened, and a shared path forward

You don't have to have it
figured out to start.

Most couples come in not knowing exactly what they need — just knowing something has to change. That's enough. You can reach out with your availability and we'll find a time that works.

Book a Free Consultation Email with your availability →

Transparent pricing.
Private pay.

Couples Session

$200

Per 50-minute session

  • No insurance billing — private pay only
  • Superbills provided upon request for potential out-of-network reimbursement
  • Free 20-minute consultation before you commit
  • In-person (Austin & Round Rock) or virtual anywhere in Texas
Why private pay? Private pay protects your confidentiality. No diagnosis on your insurance record. No insurance company dictating your care. You and I decide what you need — not a billing code.

I want fees to be clear before you reach out — not a surprise after. Couples therapy for this kind of work is a significant investment, and it is one that many couples describe as the most important thing they did for their relationship.

Many health plans offer some out-of-network mental health benefits, which means you may be reimbursed for a portion of each session. I provide a superbill you can submit directly to your insurance company.

If you have questions about fees before scheduling, you're welcome to ask. I'd rather you have the information you need than make assumptions about whether you can afford this.

How to check your out-of-network benefits: Call the member services number on the back of your insurance card and ask: "What are my out-of-network mental health benefits for outpatient therapy?" Many PPO plans reimburse 40–80% after your deductible is met.

Bringing expertise — and real understanding — to your healing.

I earned my PhD in Clinical Psychology from Texas Tech University in 2005 and have spent years working with individuals, couples, and families navigating trauma, betrayal, and complex relational dynamics. My own experience with therapy shaped how I practice: I know what it means to sit in that chair.

I am committed to ongoing training in the most current, evidence-based approaches — not because I have to be, but because you deserve a therapist who takes that seriously.

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PhD, Clinical Psychology Texas Tech University, 2005
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LPC-Associate #93330 Supervised by Mark Cagle, LPC-Supervisor #71799
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Gottman Method Levels 1 & 2 Including Treating Affairs and Trauma
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Trauma-Informed Practice EMDR trained; complex trauma & PTSD
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Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician (NATC) — Ramani Durvasula, PhD
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Two Austin-area locations Northwest Austin & Round Rock. Online statewide.

You've been carrying this
long enough. Let's start.

Your first consultation is completely free. We'll talk about what you're experiencing, whether we're a good fit, and what a path forward could look like — no pressure, no commitment required.

Book Your Free Consultation

Or call/text: 512-677-7329 · tsavener@seekthesun.net

Office Hours

Mon–Thurs · 8 AM – 5 PM

Friday · 8 AM – 12 PM

Evening appointments available by request

Locations

6850 Austin Center Blvd, Bldg 2, Suite 320
Austin, TX 78731

3000 Joe DiMaggio Blvd, Suite 1
Round Rock, TX 78665

✦ Virtual sessions available statewide in Texas