Healing Together After Trauma and Betrayal

Whatever brought you here, I want to reassure you that it’s not too big to handle. Though your pain is unique to you, you are not alone; many couples experience painful events that shake their relationships to the core. Reaching out for couples therapy is brave, and I’m here to walk with you.

Couples therapy can feel overwhelming, especially if there’s been an affair, a history of trauma, or ongoing anxiety around trusting others. You may worry about being blamed, put on the spot, or even told the relationship can’t be saved. But trauma-informed couples therapy isn’t about judgment. It’s about healing together and building a relationship that feels safe, supportive, and connected.

My approach is grounded in the Gottman Method, a research-based therapy model that helps couples heal from PTSD, infidelity, and deep emotional wounds while rebuilding trust, intimacy, and a stronger friendship. Whether the trauma happened within your relationship or to one of you individually, its impact can affect both of you.

Couples counseling should help you feel more connected, better able to cope with trauma, and more hopeful about your future together. And while the work can be challenging, many couples find moments of insight, relief, and even joy in the process.

What Can Trauma-Informed Couples Therapy Help With?

Trauma can come in many forms — from sudden betrayals to the slow wear of chronic stress or overwhelming life changes:

• Military or first responder trauma

• Childhood abuse or neglect

• Grief and loss

• Medical trauma or chronic illness

• Infidelity and emotional affairs

• Conflicts with extended family

• Major life transitions (e.g., the birth of a child, loss of a loved one, moving, job changes, or becoming empty nesters)

• Substance abuse or porn addiction

• Betrayals of trust, big or small

Relationship challenges commonly linked to trauma:

• Emotional disconnection, loneliness, or isolation

• Loss of trust and commitment

• Repeating the same unresolved fights

• One partner shutting down while the other pursues

• Lack of emotional or sexual intimacy

• Missing your previous connection and close friendship

• Feeling misunderstood, unloved, or unimportant

Couples Who Work Through Trauma Together Often Experience:

• Fewer blow-up fights or emotional shutdowns

• Greater teamwork and problem-solving

• Reduced resentment and emotional distance

• Feeling understood and validated after betrayal or trauma

• A deeper sense of emotional and physical safety

• Greater trust and vulnerability

• Renewed intimacy and sex

• Shared values, routines, and future goals

Here’s What the Process Typically Looks Like:

1. Initial Session (Together)
We meet virtually or in person to talk about what brings you in. If we meet online, I’ll ask you to be in the same room for this first conversation.

2. Online Assessment
You’ll each complete a research-based questionnaire to identify strengths and challenges. This helps us create a personalized plan for healing.

3. Individual Sessions
I’ll meet with each of you one-on-one to hear your unique story, needs, and goals for therapy.

4. Feedback and Planning Session (Together)
We review the assessment and talk through a roadmap for helping you feel safer, stronger, and more connected.

5. Ongoing Sessions
We’ll work together to help you learn tools to improve communication, build emotional safety, and reestablish intimacy.

Take the Next Step Toward Healing and Connection

Ready to Heal Your Relationship and Rebuild Trust?
If you’re ready to repair your relationship, strengthen intimacy, and create a lasting, secure connection, I’m here to guide you. Together, we’ll develop personalized tools to heal from past trauma, resolve conflict, and build a relationship that feels safe, supportive, and connected.

Schedule a Free Consultation
Trauma-informed couples therapy is available in person at my Round Rock, TX office, serving North Austin, Pflugerville, and Cedar Park, and virtually across Texas for couples navigating long-distance relationships or busy schedules.

If you don’t see a consultation time that works, email me at tsavener@seekthesun.net with your availability, and we’ll find a time that fits.

FAQ: Trauma-Informed Couples Therapy in Round Rock & Texas

Q: What is trauma-informed couples therapy?
A: Trauma-informed couples therapy focuses on understanding how past trauma—such as betrayal, childhood abuse, or emotional neglect—affects your relationship. Sessions are designed to help couples rebuild trust, improve communication, and strengthen intimacy in a safe, nonjudgmental space.

Q: Can therapy help if my partner experienced trauma outside our relationship?
A: Yes. Trauma impacts both partners, even if it occurred outside the relationship. Couples counseling addresses emotional triggers, patterns of conflict, and ways to reconnect safely while supporting each other’s healing.

Q: How long does trauma-informed couples therapy take?
A: Every couple is unique. Some notice meaningful changes within a few months, while others benefit from long-term support. We create a personalized therapy plan based on your goals, challenges, and availability.

Q: What if my partner is hesitant about therapy?
A: That’s very common. Trauma-informed couples therapy is nonjudgmental and supportive, focusing on building connection rather than assigning blame. I work to create an environment where both partners feel heard, validated, and safe.

Q: Do you offer online couples therapy in Texas?
A: Yes! I provide secure, HIPAA-compliant virtual couples therapy throughout Texas, including Austin, Dallas, Houston, San Antonio, Waco, Lubbock, El Paso, and rural communities, so you can get professional support from home.

Q: Can therapy help with infidelity, emotional affairs, or betrayals?
A: Absolutely. Trauma-informed couples therapy helps couples process betrayal, rebuild trust, and restore intimacy, whether the trauma is recent or occurred years ago.

Q: Is trauma-informed couples therapy only for major crises?
A: No. Even if your relationship struggles stem from emotional distance, ongoing tension, or life transitions (like becoming empty nesters), therapy can help you reconnect, improve communication, and rebuild friendship.

Trauma-Informed Couples Therapy Locations: In-Person & Online Across Texas

I offer trauma-informed couples counseling in-person in Round Rock, TX, conveniently near North Austin, Cedar Park, Pflugerville, Georgetown, and Lakeway. Many couples in the Greater Austin area find that face-to-face sessions provide a safe and supportive space to begin healing and restoring connection.

For couples throughout Texas, I provide virtual trauma-informed couples therapy, making professional counseling accessible no matter where you live.

Major Texas Areas Served Include:

• Austin–Round Rock Metro Area: North Austin, Cedar Park, Pflugerville, Georgetown, Lakeway, West Lake Hills

• Dallas–Fort Worth (DFW) Metro Area: Plano, Frisco, Garland, Arlington, Irving, McKinney

• Houston Metro Area: The Woodlands, Sugar Land, Katy, Pearland, Conroe

• San Antonio Metro Area: New Braunfels, Schertz, Boerne, Helotes

• West Texas & El Paso: Midland, Odessa, El Paso, Big Spring

• Corpus Christi & Coastal Bend

• Lubbock, Amarillo, and the Texas Panhandle

• Central Texas & Waco Area

• College Station / Bryan

• Tyler, Longview, and East Texas

• Rio Grande Valley: McAllen, Brownsville, Harlingen

Online Couples Therapy Across Texas
Wherever you are in Texas, urban or rural, secure virtual counseling allows couples to rebuild trust, resolve conflicts, and restore emotional intimacy from the comfort of home.